Spirit Medium Readings are a Two-Part Process
When you sit for a spirit medium reading with me, there are two parts to the reading for each loved one in spirit who comes through. The first part of the reading involves identifying the loved one in spirit coming through and the second part of the reading involves the sharing of their personal message for you. It is important to correctly identify who is communicating because it impacts the message. Without knowing the identity of the message sender, some messages would make little to no sense to the receiver.
How Information is Transmitted
When spiritual beings communicate with me soul-to-soul, they use all my extrasensory senses — seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling, tasting, and knowing (claircognizance). The information is sent and received internally, similar to a telepathic connection. The process is much more complex than just sitting down and talking with someone. Spiritual beings no longer inhabit a physical body and, therefore, must use their minds and other energetic means to communicate across dimensions. It is an abstract form of communication that requires absolute trust, openness, and receptivity from me, openness and receptivity from you to those in spirit, as well as clarity and loving strength from your loved ones in spirit.
Part One: Validating the Identity of the Communicator in Spirit
Questions and Responses
When giving a reading, I have a set of questions I ask that I send using my mind to your loved ones in spirit when you and I are working together to identify them. The questions are basic in the beginning, and then they become more in-depth as we go deeper into the validation process. For instance, I ask those in spirit “Are you male or female?” and “What did you look like?” In response, I am sent an image of your loved one in spirit which usually shows what they looked like close to the time of their passing, as you would remember them best, or as they would like to be remembered. The image they send shows me how they looked and may provide insights into your loved one’s personality and identity, as well as their relationship with you. For instance, when a man comes through wearing some form of red or maroon, this indicates to me that he is a father figure or grandfather figure to you. If he is wearing a flannel shirt, it indicates that he may have been more of the outdoorsy type who preferred to spend time outside more than inside. At the same time, he may be creating a tingling sensation in both my hands or sending me an image of a tool or machine shop, indicating that he worked with his hands using the tool or machinery that I am seeing.
There are many questions and identifying pieces of information that are sent which provide evidence of the identity of the person or animal in spirit coming through that can be validated by the recipient of the reading.
Deeper into the Validation
As I am sharing information with you, I am, at the same time, asking for more information from your loved one in spirit about what he or she did for a living, and how he or she passed. You do not hear that part of the communication because I am asking those questions directly to your loved ones in spirit using my mind, not out loud. In addition to seeing what the communicator looked like, they will also send me symbols that mean something to you and will help you to identify them. For example, as I was describing a father figure who was coming through, he sent me an image of a lemon. I asked the sitter if this meant something to her in relation to her father, and she replied that it did…her father used to eat lemons raw. This piece of information, in addition to the description of him and various other factors about his personality, what he did for a living, and how he passed, confirmed for her that it was indeed her father. He was well-known for eating this unique culinary delight. The symbols are unique for each individual and are sent to help trigger your memories of them.
As I mentioned, all my senses are utilized during a spirit medium reading, and your loved ones in spirit may be communicating with me utilizing several of them at the same time. This rapid overlapping of visions, sounds, tastes, smells, feelings, and knowingness creates a richer and more detailed communication that helps both you and me to identify and understand the messages that are being conveyed. For instance, when I am trying to identify how a person passed, I may be feeling a push like an impact in the region of my chest, seeing a car rolling over, and hearing the word “accident” all at the same time. This indicates to me that the person most likely passed due to an impact to the chest during a car accident.
Identifying the Communicator
As the information is transmitted, I share it with you, the recipient. When I have gathered enough specific information that could help you to identify a loved one, I will ask whether this person or animal (pets do come through!) sounds familiar to you. The best answer you can give is yes, no, or I don’t know. If the person sounds familiar, but you are not quite sure of who it is, please state that. More information will be brought forth to help you identify them.
It is important to note that when loved ones come through in a reading, they are yours. They are not mine, nor are they random beings popping in to intrude on your reading. They could be a deceased friend, family member, pet, neighbor, in-law, acquaintance, or co-worker. It could be a great grandmother that you never met, but who knows you from seeing you from Heaven. If this is the case, there may be records, photographs, and people still living that may be able to help you confirm the identity of the person coming through after the reading. If you do not claim them though, no message will be shared as their identity must be known for the message to make sense.
My best advice is to keep an open mind and an open heart about who is going to come through, how they are going to come through, and what they want to share. You never know who is going to come through in a reading, nor do you know how they are going to come through, or what messages they will share with you. Remember, they are coming through with information from their point of view and they also have the benefit of understanding more about life on Earth now that they are in Heaven.
Part Two: Personal Messages for You
Sharing Knowledge, Love, and Guidance
Once the identity of your loved one in spirit has been established, it is time for part two of the communication process with your loved one in spirit…their personal messages for you. There is always an important reason for a loved one coming through in a reading. Often, they share messages of import regarding your life. This could be about events that occurred in the past, are occurring presently, or will occur in the future. Your loved ones in spirit watch over you from Heaven. Because of this, they know what you need to help you with your life. What they share with you is not trivial. They have gone through a lot of effort to communicate across dimensions, and what they share could have a profound effect on your life and the evolution of your soul.
Messages of love, forgiveness, guidance, and more are shared with the hope that you, the recipient, will be open and receptive to the messages. For example, I have had loved ones in spirit come through asking for forgiveness for abusive treatment, neglect, or having a hard time expressing and sharing love while on Earth. The forgiveness that he or she is asking for is not for their benefit, but for the recipient of the reading. It may be imperative for the recipient to release all the pent-up negativity and resentment against this person to move on with his or her life. Loved ones can also come through to let a recipient know that they are, indeed, in Heaven and at peace. They may give a glimpse into future events. There are so many possibilities when it comes to messages conveyed by loved ones in spirit. Each message that comes through is designed by loved ones in spirit to help their loved ones here on Earth.
Let the Information Flow
Your loved ones in spirit do their best to convey information in a way that helps you to identify who they are to get to the heart of the reading, which is their personal message to you. I highly recommend letting your loved ones in spirit bring what they want to bring. There are times when recipients want their loved ones in spirit to tell them what they already know as a kind of proof it is really them or that they are aware of events on Earth. Demanding to only hear what you want to hear is one of the fastest ways to halt communications as you are telling your loved ones in spirit that you do not want to hear what they have to share. They truly want to help you and to do that, you need to be open to their messages and assistance.
It is important to note that some loved ones in spirit are more skilled than others at communicating with spirit mediums. They truly are doing their best to communicate and may require help from another loved one in spirit or a guide to send the information across dimensions. Like any skill, it is knowledge that is learned, and some have had more practice at it than others.
I like to think of us (the spirit medium, the recipient, and the loved one in spirit) as a team working together in harmony to transmit, receive, and share communications across the dimensions. By permitting communications to naturally flow from their spirit through mine to yours, you are allowing your loved ones in spirit to convey messages of soul importance, which will help you to get the most out of your reading. After you have identified your loved one in spirit and they have shared their messages with you, you can ask questions of them if you have them.
Equally Important
Both parts of a spirit medium reading are equally important to you, the recipient. Validating the identity of the being coming through establishes the connection between you and your loved ones in spirit and it provides the background context for the messages you are about to receive from them. The messages that come through from your loved ones in spirit contain invaluable pieces of information that come from the heart of their spirit to yours and are divinely conceived and directed.
It is my hope that this article provides you with a more thorough understanding of how spirit communication works, as well as an appreciation for the complex process of spirit communicating. I also hope that it helps you to get the most out of your next spirit medium reading.
With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
International Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?
