Trusting in Circumstances and Retraining Your Mind to Focus on the Positive

Karen T. Hluchan
5 min readSep 23, 2019

Trust in the circumstances you are in because they are not only meant to be, but also are leading you to a better place in the evolution of your soul. Even if times are challenging or you do not understand where circumstances are leading, there are positive reasons for these situations. Negative circumstances are not what they seem on the surface, as there is an amazing interconnected network of events occurring at this very moment which are leading us into situations designed to help us grow as souls.

Seeing the Positives Hidden Within

Events we perceive as negative are designed to help us grow, often at an accelerated pace. Positive experiences encourage growth through reward. On earth, it may seem as though negative circumstances outweigh the positive. This is not necessarily true. Pain, emotional or physical, often acts like a bookmark on our souls. Because of this, it is sometimes easier to recall painful situations because they left a very strong impression tied to lessons for our souls. The human ego, which is the seat of negativity, uses these bookmarks to retrieve information and persuade us into thinking there is more negative than positive. However, in knowing this, you can train your brain to recall the positive.

Important Insights Revealed

One evening as I sat in meditation, my best friend, Michele, who crossed over into Heaven several decades ago, appeared to me. Memories of our relationship flooded in; however, all had negative connotations, including the heart-wrenching way she passed, the great troubles she experienced prior to her passing, and more. In my mind I said, “No! This is not what my relationship with Michele was about. Show me at least two positive memories to counter each of the negative ones just shown.” As I continued to relax in the meditation journey, the positive memories started to flood in about the good times Michele and I enjoyed. It warmed my heart and taught me an important lesson about the ease with which we recall the negative and how we can turn that around by redirecting our thoughts to recall the positive experiences. Now when I think of Michele, it is with joy in my heart for the good times we shared.

Daily Gratitude

Each day, I work on emphasizing the positive over the negative by expressing gratitude for all the lessons I have learned, the people and animals in my life, the opportunities to give and receive love, the gifts I have been given, all that I have, and so much more. When negative circumstances arise, I do my best to focus on the lessons behind the circumstances instead of allowing sadness or self-pity to kick in, as those emotions are counterproductive and wasteful. Because I actively choose to look for the positive lessons behind negative circumstances, I have been given glimpses into the amazing ways events are orchestrated, with one circumstance leading to another and another, ending with a whole host of positive experiences hidden within. A very simple example of this would be having a tire on your vehicle go flat, which leads you to a repair shop for fixing. This could be viewed as an inconvenience as you need to alter your plans and pay for an unexpected expense. However, while at the shop, you bump into an old acquaintance who, after inquiring about how you have been and what you have been up to, provides you with a tip to help you with your career. This piece of information ends up helping you in more ways than you thought possible and came at the perfect time for you. There are no coincidences in life. All events are orchestrated from Heaven with our best interests in mind. This sequence of events started with a negative but ended with a positive. You never know where life will lead you; however, if you keep an open mind and do your best to focus on the positives, they are there. It may take time to see the positives, especially when you are immersed within a challenging situation. It is at those times it would be helpful to let go of unproductive striving and look toward solutions and the lessons within. If solutions are proving difficult to determine, this is when I let go and let God. In my mind, I hand my challenges up to God and ask for assistance, then I take my mind off the issues by focusing on other tasks or activities I enjoy while I wait for instructions about the next steps to take. These instructions will come in the form of urges to take positive actions or repetitive signs or messages.

Asking for Help

Try not to be too hard on yourself or allow a barrage of negativity to get you down. There are times when events outside of you may disturb your thoughts or increase frustration or sadness about events in the world or in the lives of those you love. If you are struggling to grapple with difficult issues affecting your life or the lives of others, I recommend calling on God and the Archangels to provide you examples of the good in the world or to show you ways you can assist in the situation or help make the world a better place. I do this when negative news about the world becomes overwhelming. I also send prayers asking for God to intervene and heal the situations. Even though there are positive reasons for negative circumstances, it can be easy to be overwhelmed at times by an onslaught of troubling news, whether it is about our own lives, the lives of those we love, or the world. Ask for help from above or from those around you if you need it and do what you can to take positive actions, including looking for the lessons behind the circumstances and, if possible, solutions to improve circumstances for those affected.

We Are All Human

Throughout all the experiences of life, it is important to remember we are all human. We make mistakes, we get back up, we go through good times and bad, and we are all living through this experience together. Be kind to yourself and others through understanding and forgiveness, and by knowing there will be people who have not yet progressed through certain lessons which enable them to operate from a place of love. We are a mix of younger souls and older souls who are helping each other learn lessons, all with the goal of helping our souls evolve and grow to a place of higher understanding and peace through love. Viewing our experiences from a more positive perspective will help make our lifetimes more enjoyable and productive, while helping us to see and experience the love and guidance from Heaven which influences our lives every day.


With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan



Karen T. Hluchan

I am a international Spirit Medium, Reiki master, paranormal investigator, motivational speaker, spiritual artist, and author of “How Have You Loved?”